Students, kids and even adults these days have no idea what respect really means. Learning respect or disrespect is a learned behavior. Having consistency and being diligent is a necessity. For as long as it took them to learn the behavior it will take at least as long to correct it. We only get these kids for 1hr a day, but really that works out to approximately 180 hrs. What you could you learn in that amount of time?
1. Model it: If you want them to do it, you have to do it too.
2. Expect it: When your expectations are reasonably high, children rise to the occasion.
3. Teach it: Give children the tools they need to show you respect.
4. Praise it:
When you see or hear your student using respectful language and making
respectful choices, recognize it and praise them for making positive,
5. Discuss it:
Pick out times when you see other students using respectful or
disrespectful language or behavior and discuss with it your students.
6. Correct it: Be
strong, firm and direct when teaching respect. At the same time, be
sure you are being respectful yourself while correcting the behavior.
7. Acknowledge it:
Don’t just let things slide! Be sure to notice when respectful behavior
is being exhibited and make sure to call them on disrespectful
8. Understand it: Our
students are growing and learning. Sometimes word choice and behavioral
decisions are made because they do not have the correct words or
behavior to relay “I’m tired,” “I’m frustrated,” or “I’m angry.”
9. Reinforce it:
Remind children of their good decisions so that they remember how it
felt, the praise they received, and the overall experience of being
10. Reward it:
Respectful behavior should be something that children want to do
without overindulgent rewards. However, it is good to associate
respectful behavior with intangible rewards such as praise, recognition,
extra responsibility, and privileges.
Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman